The face in the mirror can be for us a “constituting center.”
The face in the mirror gazes out at us: gives us to ourselves; gives us our identity
as beloved sons and daughters.
The face we see in the mirror is not our own face, and yet it becomes our own face.
As we are given to ourselves, our face becomes comely.
The face in the mirror is an active face: forgiving, refraining from judgment.
By smiling on us, the mirror conveys our goodness to ourselves.
In having an accepting countenance, it conveys acceptance.
In its gaze of love, we know we are loved.
We all need such a mirror. We all need to be given ourselves in the gaze of another.
Once the “constituting center” is true, it points us to the answers to life’s deepest questions.
- Who am I? Whose am I?
- What is the meaning of my life, any life?
- A constituting center opens up to us the purpose of existence.
All that is charitable, joyful, peaceful patient, kind, good, gracious, outgoing, inclusive, nonviolent, long-suffering begins and ends with this constituting center.
A true mirror dispels illusions: without such a mirror we search everywhere for an identity. We seek our identity in power, possessions, and prestige.
We are mirrors to each other, for better or worse.
- We can mirror the Ultimate constituting center. (It is given to us to be the
gaze of Love to each other.) This is what loving parents do to
their children; and loving spouses convey to each other, or friends. Even
creation can mirror to us our beloved state.
- False mirrors are everywhere. They can be deceiving. They can mirror to us a distorted image of our own humanity which, if we know no other gaze, we end up believing. Many people have only false mirrors in which to gaze. Eventually, they look into any mirror and expect to see a disapproving face, a judgmental face, a face that looks at them with disdain, that hates them. And they are filled with shame.
How sad that the true mirror has been reduced to a worthiness game.
How tragic that so often the gaze of our parents, our teachers, our classmates, our pastors, mirror only this. They too are victims. They too do not yet know who they are.
And there is the consuming gaze of a toxic god, really an idol. (Let jungle vines encircle this stone idol and topple it from its throne.)
Once we are grounded in our true identity, we have a sure rock on which to stand, a firm foundation that cannot be shaken by any of life’s storms. Without this firm foundation we can easily be pulled in many directions, and we are.
If we are to be transformed we need to find the true mirror, the persistent healing gaze, the gaze of love, a gaze that gives us back to ourselves, restores our humanity, restores our true identity.
The gaze from the true mirror conveys to us
- That there is nothing to earn. Our belovedness is a given.
- That worthiness is a mantel placed on us from the very beginning, before we were conceived in our mother’s womb.
- How we are made for love, and are loved without condition.
Find the true mirror and we find ourselves. It is the pearl of great price; the treasure hidden in the field. It is Holy Wisdom. Lady Sofia, Highest Consciousness, Enlightenment.
Not to find it, is the greatest tragedy.
But even then
the Gaze of Love, the Gaze of our Source, never ends.
Ultimately, this is where we will all find our true name. It is a clear and constant mirror that will never be broken.